ARE yOU READY fOR lOVE?
Many people are looking for a meaningful and fulfilling relationship. However, plenty of us don’t know what that truly means or how to get past our own stuff to get there. Whether you’re someone who is in a stagnant relationship, chronically dating, entangled in a “situationship,” navigating infidelity, getting over a previous toxic relationship, or hopelessly single, I’m here to help you overcome the internal blocks that are preventing you from finding the connection you want.
How EMDR Helps With Love
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Sometimes we find ourselves on a never-ending carousel of toxic relationships. While we may want to get off this ride, we can’t seem to stop. One relationship (or situationship) after the other seems to crumble and burn, leaving you stuck in the same feelings of heartache, shame, loneliness, and hopelessness, over and over again. You may be asking yourself: Why do I keep going for the same type of person? Why do all my relationships keep turning out this way? What’s wrong with me? Will this ever change? Will I ever be happy? Am I going to end up alone?
While those questions and feelings are deeply painful, I promise you that you’re not the first person I’ve heard ask them. Countless clients have sat across from me wondering if they’d all be this miserable forever. But, the good news is that they’re not. While a lot of traditional talk therapies stay in a cognitive state where it’s basically like “let’s think about why you shouldn’t do this”, EMDR goes deeper, looking at the underlying urges and pulling them out at the root. You already know what you “should” do, but there is something holding you back from following through, that’s what EMDR gets to. When we’re able to reprocess your experiences, decrease your attachment distress, and rewire your automatic urges, you’re going to experience a whole new outlook on dating and relationships.
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We’ve all experienced at least one ex that was difficult to move past leading to us pining over them for a bit too long. For some of us, this pining has gone on for years disrupting our lives, happiness, and relationships. We may think about them all the time, reminiscing on the good aspects of the relationship and how they made us feel when things were going well. Or, we may find ourselves comparing them to our current partners. If any of this sounds familiar, it’s time to let go.
I know, it’s hard. We put so much meaning into this person–we may even think that if we’d stayed with them our life would be completely different. With so much invested in this fantasy, it is difficult to let go. But the reality is, that while it is about them, it’s also not. It’s about the idea that life could be different, that you could be saved from some current reality. When we repair the roots of what is keeping you in the past, you can start living the life you want, free from your past partner fantasy.
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All humans need attachment and connection. While some of these needs can be fulfilled by friends and family, there is a special place in our hearts for romantic partners. However, due to life experiences, we may not be open to finding love and partnership. Whether it is a fear of commitment, fear of abandonment, fear of vulnerability, a string of difficult relationships, or watching a messy divorce growing up, we all have our own fears that we bring into this experience. With EMDR, we can get to the bottom of those fears and allow you to form new neural pathways around safety and connection. No longer will you feel you must opt-out of relationships in order to keep yourself mental, emotionally, or physically safe. Instead, you’ll develop a sense of trust in yourself and others.
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Do you have an issue being faithful in monogamous relationships? Is it getting in the way of you being able to find a lasting, fulfilling partnership? If you answered “yes” to those questions, there is hope. Cheating does not exist in a vacuum, meaning it is a symptom of a larger issue. With EMDR we use a bottom-up approach to therapy that helps us discover the roots of a problematic behavior and reprocess it to form new neural pathways and altered behavior. We do this with curiosity and compassion, not blame and shame. There IS a reason why this is happening and I'm dedicated to helping you resolve it.
If you feel infidelity is a problem for you and you want change, there is a way forward.
EMDR INTENSIVES FOR LOVE
What if A weekend Could Help Take away your pain and get you past your stuck points?
Because that is exactly what an EMDR Intensive is built to do. With this model, you get all the therapeutic benefits of EMDR in a shorter, faster process, with results that last.
Using the EMDR Intensive model I’ve helped clients unlock the reason behind their relationship behaviors, get over exes that have plagued them for years, and begin making choices that lead to the life they truly want.
You can experience change too.
Other Ways We Can Work Together
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Extended EMDR Sessions
This 3 hour session provides the benefits of EMDR Intensives, but on a more flexible schedule. Schedule between 1-2 sessions per month to accelerate your healing and achieve greater change.
ARE YOU READY?
If you’re ready to get on the path to feeling better, schedule your free 15 minute consultation call today.